“No One is Youer than You!”

How wonderful!  “…no one… is Youer than You!”  Really and truly, how much more simply and strongly can it be put.  Why is it then that it can sometimes be such a struggle to maintain that loving belief in oneself?

When I was pregnant for Hank the most prominent thought I had was that I wanted my baby to grow up to have a high self-esteem.  I was raised with love, but with the notion that ‘thinking too much of yourself’ was an unattractive trait.  Therefore I have had to work at not only learning to love myself but at believing that it is okay to do so.  Thank heavens that with a lot of attention to this I have come to see myself as someone that I like and would want to be friends with.  Boy have I come a long way!

I am very attracted to humility in others and have learned that being humble is very different from being self-depracating.  One of the best definitions of humility  for me is to know what my true strengths are.  It’s so easy for me to know my weaknesses, but knowing and truly believing in my strengths is another thing entirely.  Can I believe in myself without becoming arrogant and overly ‘me’ centered?  Yes, I think so. 

Several years ago I was given a very simple tool that has proven to be extremely valuable.  It was suggested to me that at the end of the day I make a positive personal inventory.  While lying in bed trying to sleep I would find myself feeling anxious and weighed down by fear, anxiety and worry.  I would think about, for example, something that I had said that day that I was sure would ruin a friendship, or hinder a relationship with one of Hank’s teachers.  I forced myself to replace these negative thoughts with recollections of only positive things that had happened throughout the past twenty-four hours.  I was amazed at all of the wonderful incidences that had occurred that I could only remember if I put my mind to it!  I cannot tell you what a benefit this has been for me.

Another wonderful suggestion was to take one thing that I thought was positive about myself and repeat it in my mind whenever I found I was being overly self critical or worried.  I did this with a new characteristic everyday for thirty days and have done it a few times over the years since. Simple, not always easy, but very worth the discipline it can take.

So here I am today able to look in a mirror and not cringe, think about wonderful things in my day, and fill my heart and soul with gratitude for all of the wonderful pieces of me.  I am so incredibly imperfect, so incredibly human, but I love myself…warts and all.  After years of work on this project called Maureen, of letting go and allowing myself to be the woman that God intended me to be, I can finally truly love my neighbor as myself.  

So thank you Dr. Seuss for your beautiful words.  There really is “…no one alive who is Youer than You!” 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Debbie March 3, 2013 at 4:35 pm

Great words to live by Maureen, I have not mastered that fine line between deprecation and confidence but working on it

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Maureen March 3, 2013 at 4:50 pm

Keep at it my friend…it’s well worth the work! I think one of the biggest things that has helped me is realizing that somewhere deep inside I thought I needed to be perfect. Learning that that is truly not possible is giving me a great deal more freedom! 🙂

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Portia March 3, 2013 at 4:50 pm

I love this. And have my very own, VERY long, list of Wonderful Things about Maureen Q. Xxx

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admin March 4, 2013 at 2:20 am

Thank you so much my dear friend!!! xoxoxo!

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Kate March 5, 2013 at 11:00 pm

I enjoyed this.

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Ilsa March 7, 2013 at 1:44 am

Great blog Maureen! As for me, I remain a work in progress, making mistakes, screw things up on occassion, burn dinner, etc., but allow myself the pleasure of knowing everything comes from a place of love. Your words are a gift and you inspire me!!

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admin March 10, 2013 at 4:55 pm

Thank you Ilsa. I too am a work in progress…I love your candor and I know that you truly do come from a place of love!

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